Maybe some Stoics were the only ones in the middle of it and balanced. It's difficult.
The point where we are on the scale is different for each person. Learning and improvement happen when we can shift, even slightly, our perception of control and lack of control — so moving our scale.
I see it rather as a constant effort to play with it.
Thank you for this, Anton — I liked the concept of this balance and how it shifts!
Both me and my dad started implementing this type of mimdset not so long ago.
Focusing on what we can control has allowed us to, among other things, to remain happier in life.
Thanks for the mention, and happy new year.
I'm glad that it had such a positive influence on you and your father, Alberto!
Thank you for sharing your perspective.
Happy 2025!
I rewrote this comment 3 times now 😂
The first one -agreed with what you wrote
The second one - disagreed
And now, I reagree :)
If things are out of our control, we should not worry about whether or when they happen. We need to plan for them, and let it go.
Think about the worst case -> Mitigate it -> Move on.
Thanks for the mention :)
It's nice that you "reagree," Orel :)
That's a great reminder to plan to worry less.
Thank you for sharing your perspective on it.
I think it's an interesting scale.
Some people (like me), need to learn how to let go of control a bit. Let life flow, and accept lower levels of influence.
Other people need to take more control, and stop feeling like they have no influence on anything.
I don't think I've met anyone who mastered that balance and is right in the middle of the scale :)
Maybe some Stoics were the only ones in the middle of it and balanced. It's difficult.
The point where we are on the scale is different for each person. Learning and improvement happen when we can shift, even slightly, our perception of control and lack of control — so moving our scale.
I see it rather as a constant effort to play with it.
Thank you for this, Anton — I liked the concept of this balance and how it shifts!